जब चाणक्य ने लिया त्रिगुण परीक्षण

एक दिन चाणक्य का एक परिचित उनके पास आया और उत्साह से कहने लगा, 'आप जानते हैं, अभी-अभी मैंने आपके मित्र के बारे में क्या सुना है?' 

चाणक्य अपनी तर्क-शक्ति, ज्ञान और व्यवहार-कुशलता के लिए विख्यात थे।

उन्होंने अपने परिचित से कहा, 'आपकी बात मैं सुनूं, इसके पहले मैं चाहूंगा कि आप त्रिगुण परीक्षण से गुजरें।'

उस परिचित ने पूछा - 'यह त्रिगुण परीक्षण क्या है?'

चाणक्य ने समझाया- 'आप मुझे मेरे मित्र के बारे में बताएं, इससे पहले अच्छा यह होगा कि जो कहें, उसे थोड़ा परख लें, थोड़ा छान लें। इसीलिए मैं इस प्रक्रिया को त्रिगुण परीक्षण कहता हूं।

इस कसौटी के अनुसार जानना जरूरी है कि जो आप कहने वाले हैं, वह सत्य है। आप खुद उसके बारे में अच्छी तरह जानते हैं?'

'नहीं,' - वह आदमी बोला, 'वास्तव में मैंने इसे कहीं सुना था। खुद देखा या अनुभव नहीं किया था।'

'ठीक है,' - चाणक्य ने कहा, 'आपको पता नहीं है कि यह बात सत्य है या असत्य।

दूसरी कसौटी है -'अच्छाई। क्या आप मुझे मेरे मित्र की कोई अच्छाई बताने वाले हैं?'

'नहीं,' - उस व्यक्ति ने कहा।

इस पर चाणक्य बोले,' जो आप कहने वाले हैं, वह न तो सत्य है, न ही अच्छा। चलिए, तीसरा परीक्षण कर ही डालते हैं।'

'तीसरी कसौटी है - उपयोगिता। जो आप कहने वाले हैं, वह क्या मेरे लिए उपयोगी है?'

'नहीं, ऐसा तो नहीं है।' सुनकर चाणक्य ने आखिरी बात कह दी।'

आप मुझे जो बताने वाले हैं, वह न सत्य है, न अच्छा और न ही उपयोगी, फिर आप मुझे बताना क्यों चाहते हैं?'

aaj hamein iski sakht jaroorat hai....

Friendship

As we grow, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.

Remember, life is kind of like a party.  You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late.  But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess.  And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess.  These people are your real friends in life.  They are the ones who matter most.

Here are 15 things real friends do differently:

1. They face problems together. – A person who truly knows and loves you – a real friend – is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else still believes the smile on your face.  Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
2. They give what they can because they truly care. – One of the biggest challenges in relationships comes from the fact that many of us enter a relationship in order to get something.  We try to find someone who’s going to make us feel good.  In reality, the only way a relationship will last, and give us joy in the long-term, is if we see our relationship as a place we go to give, and not just a place we go to take.  Yes, of course it is okay to take something from a relationship too.  But both sides should be giving.  It can only be a ‘give and take’ if BOTH SIDES are GIVING.  That’s the key.
3. They make time for each other. – It’s obvious, but any relationship without any face time is going to have problems.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life.  Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you, they will create one for you.  (Read The How of Happiness.)
4. They offer each other freedom. – A healthy relationship keeps the doors and windows wide open.  Plenty of air is circulating and no one feelstrapped.  Relationships thrive in this environment.  Keep your doors and windows open.  If this person is meant to be in your life, all the open doors and windows in the world won’t make them leave.
5. They communicate effectively. – It’s been said many times before, but it’s true: great communication is the cornerstone of a great relationship.  If you have resentment, you must talk it out rather than let the resentment grow.  If you are jealous, you must communicate in an open and honest manner to address your insecurities.  If you have expectations of your partner, you must communicate them.  If there are any problems whatsoever, you must communicate them and work them out.  And communicate more than just problems – communicate the good things too.
6. They accept each other as is. – Trying to change a person never works. People know when they are not accepted in their entirety, and it hurts.  A real friend is someone who truly knows you, and loves you just the same.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.  If you feel like changing something about your friend, ask yourself what change you can make in yourself instead.
7. They are genuine, and expect genuineness. – As Leo F. Buscaglia once said, “Never idealize others.  They will never live up to your expectations.  Don’t over-analyze your relationships.  Stop playing games.  A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.” Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts.  Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.  Always be open, honest, and genuine.  (Read The Mastery of Love.)
8. They compromise. – Real friends meet in the middle.  When there’s a disagreement, they work out a solution that works for both parties – a compromise, rather than a need for the other person to change or completely give in.
9. They support each other’s growth changes. – Our needs change with time.  When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing.  Sometimes it just means you grown.  Don’t apologize for it.  Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.
10. They believe in each other. – Simply believing in another person, and showing it in your words and deeds, can make a huge difference in their life.  Studies of people who grew up in dysfunctional homes but who grew up to be happy and successful show that the one thing they had in common was someone who believed in them.  Do this for those you care about.  Support their dreams and passions and hobbies.  Participate with them.  Cheer for them.  Be nothing but encouraging.  Whether they actually accomplish these dreams or not, your belief is of infinite importance to them.
11. They maintain realistic expectations of their relationship. – No one is happy all the time.  Friends must keep realistic expectations of each other.  Notice when you’re projecting something onto the other person that has nothing to do with them, like a fear from a past relationship, and then make an effort to let it go.  Recognize when you’re looking for that person to do something for you that you need to do for yourself, like making you feel lovable or take care of your needs, and then release those expectations and do it for yourself.
12. They honor each other in small ways on a regular basis. – Honor your important relationships in some way every chance you get.  Every day you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by making small gestures to show your appreciation and affection.  Remember, making one person smile can change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  Your kindness and gratitude matters.  Make an effort to really listen – not just wait to talk.  See the other person as if for the first time.  It’s all too easy to take someone for granted.  Really notice all the wonderful things they do, and let them know what you see.
13. They listen, and they hear every word. – Giving a person a voice, and showing them that their words matter, will have a long-lasting impact on them.  Less advice is often the best advice.  People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement.  What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them.  They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.
14. They keep their promises. – Your word means everything.  If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT!  If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE!  If you say you feel something, MEAN IT!  If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE.  Real friends keep promises and tell the truth upfront.  (Read The Four Agreements.)
15. They stick around. – The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need.  When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave.  The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on.  We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are.

16 Things which can improve our life style or say makes the life easy

" जिंदगी के हर मोड़ पर काम आने वाली 16 अद्भुत बातें " ********************************** 1. गुण - न हो तो रूप व्यर्थ है. 2. विनम्रता- न हो तो विद्या व्यर्थ है. 3. उपयोग- न आए तो धन व्यर्थ है. 4. साहस- न हो तो हथियार व्यर्थ है. 5. भूख- न हो तो भोजन व्यर्थ है. 6. होश- न हो तो जोश व्यर्थ है. 7. परोपकार- न करने वालों का जीवन व्यर्थ है. 8. गुस्सा- अक्ल को खा जाता है. 9. अहंकार- मन को खा जाता है. 10. चिंता- आयु को खा जाती है. 11. रिश्वत- इंसाफ को खा जाती है. 12. लालच- ईमान को खा जाता है. 13. दान- करने से दरिद्रता का अंत हो जाता है. 14. सुन्दरता- बगैर लज्जा के सुन्दरता व्यर्थ है. 15. दोस्त- चिढ़ता हुआ दोस्त मुस्कुराते हुए दुश्मन से अच्छा है. 16. सूरत- आदमी की कीमत उसकी सूरत से नहीं बल्कि सीरत यानीगुणों से लगानी चाहिये....

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101 steps to having a good relationship

1. Watch the sunset together.

2. Take showers together.

3. Back rubs/massages.

4. Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or w/ blacklight.

5. French Kiss.

6. Hold her w/ hands inside the back of her shirt.

7. Whisper to each other.

8. Cook for each other.

9. Skinny dip.

10. Make out in the rain.

11. Dress each other.

12. Undress each other.

13. Kiss every part of their body.

14. Hold hands.

15. Sleep together. (Actually sleep with each other ... not sex)

16. One word ... Foreplay

17. Sit and talk in just underwear.

18. Buy gifts for each other.

19. Roses.

20. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you’re together.

21. Wear his clothes.

22. Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars.

23. Incense/candles/oils/blacklights and music make for great cuddling/sex.

24. Kiss at every chance you get.

25. Don’t wear underwear and let them find out.

26. Kinky is bad ... Blindfolds are good.

27. Lightly kiss their collarbone and their jawbone just below the ear, then whisper I love you.

28. Bubble baths.

29. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.

30. Make love.

31. Write poetry for each other.

32. Kiss/smell her hair.

33. Hugs are the universal medicine.

34. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.

35. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.

36. Tell her that she’s the only girl you ever want. Don’t lie.

37. Spend every second possible together.

38. Tell her that she doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to. And mean it.

39. Look into each other’s eyes.

40. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly.

41. Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes.

42. When in public, only flirt w/ each other.

43. Walk behind her and put your hands in her front pockets.

44. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren’t looking.

45. Clothes are no fun.

46. Buy her a ring.

47. Keep one of her bras somewhere where you see it everyday.

48. Sing to each other.

49. Read to each other.

50. PDA = Public Display of Affection.

51. Take advantage of any time alone together.

52. Tell her about how you answered every question in math with her name.

53. Draw. (If you can)

54. Let her sit on your lap.

55. Go hiking and camp out together in the woods or on a mountain.

56. Lips were made for kissing. So were eyes, and fingers, and cheeks, and collarbones, and hands, and ears.

57. Kiss her stomach.

58. Always hold her around her hips/sides.

59. Guys like half-shirts.

60. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.

61. Spaghetti… (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)

62. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart.

63. Unless you can feel their hear beating, you aren’t close enough.

64. Dance together.

65. Sit in front of a roaring fire and make out/make love.

66. I love the way a girl looks right after she’s fallen asleep with her head in my lap.

67. Carry her to bed.

68. Waterbeds are fun.

69. You figure it out.

70. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.

71. Break every one of your parent’s relationship rules for them.

72. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes

73. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I love you.

74. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them.

75. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.

76. Ride your bike 8 miles just to see them for a few hours.

77. Ride home and call them.

78. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.

79. Somehow incorporate them into any kind of religion or worship you have.

80. Be Prince Charming to her parents. (Brownie Points)

81. Act out mutual fantasies together. (Not necessarily sexual)

82. Brush her hair out of her face for her.

83. Stay up all night to think of 101 ways to be sweet to them.

84. Hang out with his/her friends. (more brownie points)

85. Go to church/pray/worship together.

86. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.

87. Cuddle together under a full moon on a clear night.

88. Learn from each other and don’t make the same mistake twice.

89. Everyone deserves a second chance.

90. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.

91. Make sacrifices for each other.

92. Really love each other, or don’t stay together.

93. Write a fictional story about how you met/fell in love, etc. and give it to them.

94. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren’t thinking about them, and make sure they know it.

95. Love yourself before you love anyone else.

96. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.

97. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.

98. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.

99. Sleep naked together.

100. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.

101. Never forget the kiss goodnight. And always remember to say, "Sweet dreams."

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Office Humour ---- have fun...

Best Out of Office Email Replies (auto-responders) 

1: I am currently out at a job interview and will reply to you if I fail to get the position. 

2: I’m not really out of the office. I’m just ignoring you. 

3: You are receiving this automatic notification because I am out of the office. If I was in chances are you wouldn’t have received anything at all. 

4: Sorry to have missed you but I am at the doctors having my brain removed so that I may be promoted to management. 

5: Thank you for your email. Your credit card has been charged $5.99 or the first ten words and $1.99 for each additional word in your message. 

6: The e-mail server is unable to verify your server connection and is unable to deliver this message. Please restart your computer and try sending again.’ (The beauty of this is that when you return, you can see how many individuals did this over and over). 

7: Thank you for your message, which has been added to a queuing system. You are currently in 452nd place, and can expect to receive a reply in approximately 19 weeks. 

8: Hi,I’m thinking about what you’ve just sent me. Please wait by you PC for my response. 

9: Hi! I’m busy negotiating the salary for my new job. Don’t bother to leave me any messages. 

10: I’ve run away to join a different circus. 

AND, FINALLY, THIS ONE TAKES THE CAKE: 

I will be out of the office for the next 2 weeks for medical reasons. When I return, please refer to me as ‘Loretta’ instead of ‘Steve’

10 sure-shot give always you’re not sleeping enough

Our fast paced lives are full of work and stress. Our metaphorical plates are overflowing with more things to do than we can imagine and then there’s the internet as an add-on (like the whipped cream on the coffee) that keeps people way longer than they should.
So are you sure you are getting enough rest to be a fresh new person every day? Read on to know if you need to grab the blanket, switch the lights off and get some dream-time.

1. Online at 3: So you get up in the middle of the night and check your phone. You see so many notifications that your eyes are wide open and you go online and start replying to mails, tweeting, updating statuses or pinning at odd hours. These are all good indications that you are losing your sleep.
2. Forever stressed: You can’t tolerate people, you shout at them. You are stressed and you have no idea when was the last time you felt happy. Maybe all you need is a nap.
3. Forget-me-yes: You keep on forgetting things. You walk into the same room thrice and go out without taking what you really wanted. Birthdays are forgotten. You are late for meetings and gosh, you don’t even remember what exactly you were doing!
4. Funny with food: You go crazy with the food. Either you keep on eating or you don’t feel like eating at all. You don’t understand when you are hungry and your relationship status with food is strictly complicated.

    5. Weighty issues: You are gaining pounds and that muffin top is turning into a big wedding cake. It is shouting ‘sleep deprivation alert’. Listen to it, won’t you?
6. Infection attacks: You are sick of being sick. The door is wide open and infections are walking in one after the other. You are even out of sick leave at work! What you need is not another tablet; but regular sleep.
7. Dwelling in dilemma: “Tea or coffee”, “now or later”, “this or that”; these are the common question you keep asking yourself. You have lost your super powers of decision making and all these decisions, from tiny to the massive, have become a task.
8. Repeat telecast: You keep on repeating your actions without realizing. You don’t understand what exactly you are doing and life is playing in a loop. Break this loop with a little sleep.
9. Real life blur effect: The world looks photoshopped. It seems that the blur effect has been used at its best. Your eyes look devilishly red and people seem to be afraid of you.
10. Things have changed: Yes, your love life is not going well. You are having mood swings you cannot explain. Nothing is going right; every act has taken a left diversion.
If you are feeling these things, it is about time to switch your system off and hit the bed. You’ll probably wake up to find the world a much better place!

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